I share my story as a public service. To warn you of an all-too-common, but seldom discussed, problem—what can happen when you exceed your capacity for abundance.
Last weekend, I married the man of my dreams. We spent months planning the perfect wedding. Our family and friends were coming from all corners of the country. And thanks to the power of passive income, we could enjoy the planning and partying without worrying about work.
I was savoring every moment, until suddenly, inexplicably, I went into overwhelm, got cranky, picked a fight with my fiancé, and on the day before the wedding, decided to call the whole thing off.
My hubby-to-be was baffled. My kids thought I’d gone crazy. I was inclined to agree with them. I dearly love this man. Why was I acting like this?
Then it hit me…thanks to the Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.
I was having an Upper Limit Problem. I’d maxed out on how much good stuff I could stand.
As Hendricks explains, “Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy.”
The minute we exceed that setting—by “making more money, experiencing more love, drawing more positive attention to yourself—you trip your upper limit switch.”
Those switches were set early in life, “through unconscious childhood decisions.”
As soon as we go beyond our artificial boundary, a little voice inside us says: ’You can’t possibly feel this good.’ So we unwittingly find ways to feel bad.
We start worrying, criticizing, squabbling, even falling ill or getting hurt.